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baring a soul : february 2000
sex: 02.29.00
"what would an angel say? the devil wants to know..."
so...what is sex? i am looking for a definition. what qualifies?
no, not just the technical textbook version. clinical has no place in my world.
emotionally. what qualifies as sex? is it qualified by the desire for contact with someone that culminates in the satisfaction of that desire?
oral sex. standard intercourse. even anal sex...pretty easy. those are sex. i can't argue with that.
masterbation. sure...sex with yourself. if someone masterbates *for* you, is that sex? mmm...fuzzy, but probably still qualifies in the genre.
making out? mmm..highly likely it would lead to orgasm...which is sex, right?
getting off = sex ?
what if performing in a fetish troupe gets you off? "technically" not sex...but emotionally, the same desires that drive the action as if you sought out sex with someone? pushing the erotic barriers...seeking for someone to push them...enjoyed pushing someone else's?
what about setting a date to ride on the back of someone's motorcycle? the exhileration of the speed, pressed against someone's body...very erotic experience.
seeking out an evening with someone because you have that sexual tension with them and you enjoy flirting with that edge?
cybersex?
phonesex?
sex. such a frustratingly fuzzy term. i used to think that was rather handy...always nice to get off on a technicality when the DA is grilling you and the jury was bought off before it all began.
now i just wish there was a standard definition. a nice out-of-the-box answer.